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Morning Roundup: Death & Taxes

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It’s often said that nothing is life is guaranteed except death & taxes.

Death: Dan Wheldon, IndyCar driver, died after being involved in a terrible collision during the 13th lap of the IndyCar season finale. I’m not a racing fan, but if you watch the video I think you too will be amazed that tragedy doesn’t strike motorsports more often. Wheldon was 3 years older than me and is survived by a wife and two young sons essentially the same age as my two – I can’t imagine the sorrow for his young family.

Death, Part 2: This guy was cut up and eaten by cannibals. His girlfriend managed to escape, but it seems like she had been marked as dessert. Lesson here: don’t hunt goats with locals on some remote island in the South Pacific. (Note the second to last paragraph in the article)

Taxes: Friendly accountant here to remind you that today is the deadline for filing your extended 2010 federal income tax returns. Whether you think they take too much or not enough, the IRS will impose confiscatory penalties for non-filing if you are delinquent. If you have a reason to visit the post office and can wait until tomorrow, I suggest that you do – the line will be long and filled with angry procrastinators.

Non-Sports: The “Occupy” protests saw a rash of arrests over the weekend in various cities. I feel like we should take a role call here on VFTB to make sure we didn’t lose anyone. Or maybe buddy-up like the mall scene from Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure. I’ll buddy with Bob “Genghis” Khan. Put out an APB for BLPCB.

Sports: A few other sporting details from the weekend:

The World Series starts on Wednesday in St. Louis with the Cardinals taking on the Rangers. If you plan on rooting for the Cardinals I suggest you keep that to yourself.

The BCS is a two conference race right now. Alabama, LSU, Oklahoma, and Oklahoma State are the top four. The SEC and Big 12 teams will face off during the regular season; Bama v. LSU on Nov. 5th; OU v. OSU on Dec. 3rd. It’s quite reasonable to think that at least one team will enter each of those games undefeated. If you like NCAAF, circle those dates on the schedule, it’s “can’t-miss” TV.

The NBA shows no signs of an agreement, and I for one, couldn’t be happier. Currently, they are “hoping” for Christmas Day games – but the outlook is less than promising.

Cubs: Theo Epstein still hasn’t been hired, but there are reports that Ben Cherington has already been promoted in Boston. The Cubs and Red Sox continue to fight over compensation, but it’s been strongly suggested that a resolution will come before the World Series starts (the league mandates that no major personnel business can take place during the World Series).

Aramis Ramirez wants “several years” or he’s going to move on from the Cubs. The Cubs should thank Aramis for his time with the club and tell him that he’ll need to find “several years” elsewhere. Someone will give it to him (see: Angels…Anaheim, LA, Irvine, Tustin, Diamond Bar…wherever they’re going to hail from in 2012).

With the timing of the expected Epstein announcement, it seems likely that Quade is still on board through the World Series. I strongly suggest that the Cubs look at Charlie Sheen to replace Quade. Why? For starters, most managers have minimal impact on the actual game; also, a manager doing blow in the clubhouse didn’t stop the two-time defending AL Champion Rangers. Plus, if it’s all about ego management, we’d be turning the tables on the players – they’d have to manage his ego, not the other way around.

Final Question: In a matchup that before the season would’ve been the unlikeliest marquee game of Week 6 in the NFL, the 49ers bested the previously unbeaten Lions in Detroit. After the game, head coaches from both teams got into on the field after Jim Schwartz took issue with Jim Harbaugh’s post-game hand shake/back slap. Terry Bradshaw in an uncharacteristically lucid, even eloquent moment described that his problem was with the whole idea of the post-game handshake. I have to agree with him, it’s one thing to promote sportsmanship in Little League games or even observe the post-series playoff hockey tradition of center ice hand shakes; but grown men who are doing a job shouldn’t be forced to march across the field and congratulate a guy/team who just established his dominance.  What say you?

  • Buddy

    If two grown man can’t keep their sh!t together for a two-second handshake, they shouldn’t be working in professional sports.

  • Doug Bagley

    “The World Series starts on Wednesday in St. Louis with the Cardinals taking on the Rangers. If you plan on rooting for the Cardinals I suggest you keep that to yourself.”
    I agree JJ!
    As for the NFL coaches incident, if coaches/players want to shake hands/hug after the game that’s great! But they shouldn’t be forced into doing it

  • Dusty Baylor

    Harbaugh was pumped up….ok and a little too enthusiastic…ok maybe. But geez….get over it.

    BTW…is there anything worse than gloating Cardinals fans? Ugh…

  • Kris

    Wow…for the first time in months I can get to VFTB at work without it timing out. Yay!!

    I’m thankful I have friends and family in Texas, giving me one more reason not to root for the Cardinals.

    And I’m completely with Buddy on the handshake fiasco. These men make a bazillion dollars coaching a sport and they can’t shake hands like grown-ups. (On that note, if the NBA continues to argue over who gets $1.5 bazillion dollars and who gets $2 bazillion dollars each season, I will stop caring about them entirely.)

  • Jedi

    Dusty – one thing is worse; gloating Cardinal fans – gloating Cardinal fans to whom one is related.

  • BLPCB

    Taxes: Look at those losers, I did my taxes over a year ago
    Non-sports: I might go to the Occupy Chicago protests Thursday
    Sports:
    World Series: I will be rooting for the Rangers. I hate the Cardinals. The only time I would root for them to win the World Series is vs. the White Sox. I had a friend who went to STLCOP and he said when the Cardinals won the WS in 2006, no one was celebrating in the streets
    College: I would like to see Boise State sneak into the national title game. And if they don’t, I want to see them beat Wisconsin in the Rose Bowl.
    NBA: How can you be happy there is no NBA? I love the NBA, and this past year was the best since Jordan. It has gotten much better the last 3-4 years
    Cubs: I’ll be beating a dead horse with my take on the things posted, so I’ll just say smell ya later Aramis, and shut up.
    Final Question: America wasn’t built on nice guys. It was built on winners who didn’t give a DAMN about people’s feelings.

  • My rule of thumb is to support the NL in the WS, unless the Braves represent the good guys. I can’t pick a horse in this one…hoping for seven games though.
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    Might be time for a new layout, Joe. Google is ranking search with respect to page speed…timeouts are a bad sign. Too many requests.

  • Doc Raker

    I watched the handshake live and it struck me as a ‘wow Harbaugh is a little pumped up’. It was obvious he was gaging his teams playoff viability on this game. Yes he hit the opposing coach a little to hard but it was unintentional, it was not an intentional disrespect.

  • Allan Bendert

    Harbaugh has to realize he isn’t in college anymore. Act like a professional. And Schwartz was disappointing, man let it pass it was like he was trying to prove he was a man or something. Very disappointing.

  • Doc Raker

    What do these occupy protesters want? Everything for free? They are the product of a spoiled entitlement brainwashed class that doesn’t understand what made this country great. You want to see them really protest about something, take there ipods away.

  • Jedi

    BLPCB – hats off to for completing your taxes over a year ago.

  • Evil corporations should be less evil, and very rich people should be rich. Sounds to me like the movement’s platform was put together by an altruistic small child.

  • Seymour Butts

    BLPCB was referring to his taxes of 2007.
    Nobody comments on the death issue? Not a motor fan, but sad all the same. The film looked like many should have died, amazing it was not so.
    Loins coach was being a jerk, the guy was excited, get over it.
    Who has time on their hands to occupy anything? Too busy earning some coin so the government can steal it from me in the form of taxes.

  • Seymour Butts

    stupid spellchecker…
    although Loins and Jerk in the same sentence is bemusing.

  • Jedi

    Oh, and as for the NBA – my reason for not liking it is simple; pre-January games don’t matter anyway. The Spurs have built an entire franchise predicated on this fact. Numerous superstars have waited until late summer/early fall to have surgery just so they can return in the New Year. April baseball matters, September football is a big deal, but November-December NBA games mean nothing. (Plus the league has too many teams…but I digress)

  • Mark in Toronto

    Can’t day I’m much of a racing fan, but still very sad to hear about Wheldon’s death.

    These “occupy” protests have now started here in Toronto as well. Still not sure why as our Government didn’t enact any bailouts or other actions during the financial crisis and our economy overall is in pretty decent shape. Unlike those attending these protests, I have a job to go to, so I definitely won’t be taking part.

    I agree on the whole handshake issue, definitely doesn’t seem like it’s something needed in pro sports, there was a good discussion about this topic this morning on Mike and Mike on ESPN radio.

  • Jeremiah Johnson

    Lots to talk about this morning.
    1) I’m with Seymour–it’s amazing more of the drivers in that wreck didn’t die. Very sad for Wheldon’s family.
    2) That cannibal thing is insane. If you can’t trust a goat-hunting stranger on a remote, tropical island, who can you trust?
    3) We have an accountant in our family, so taxes aren’t really the headache they are for most people.
    4) What’s the over/under on the number of arms BLPCB breaks at the Occupy protest? Whatever it is, I’ll take the over.
    5) The Cardinals winning the WS is a nightmare situation as far as I’m concerned. For the next week or so, I’m the biggest Rangers fan in the world.
    6) I’m thrilled to see my Oklahoma State Cowboys ranked #4 in the country, but there’s still a long way to go until Bedlam. Mizzou on the road this week, and then I’m heading to Stillwater for homecoming against Baylor. Can’t wait.
    7) I’m happy there won’t be any NBA games for a while. Hopefully the NHL will get some more attention.
    8 ) I expect the Epstein situation will be resolved some time today or tomorrow.
    9) Harbaugh was a little too exuberant, but Schwartz was WAY over the line. How does chasing him up the tunnel and trying to start a shoving match answer Harbaugh’s supposed slight? If you don’t like what he did, address it in private or to the media. The handshake is dumb enough already–chasing him around makes you look infantile.

  • chris in illinois

    In complete agreement with the field here: only thing worse than the actual Cardinals are Cardinal fans. For many of the Cardinal fans I know, the only thing worse than the Cubs is Tony L, therefore I am rooting for whatever outcome ensures TLR’s presence in StL for years to come. A Cards championship would almost be worth the hundreds of unnecessary pitching changes TLR would inflict upon Bird Nation.

  • That is part of my conundrum too Chris. If they win, they are more likely to overspend on Albert and bring back Transition Lens Tony.

  • Jedi

    That’s a mouthful jswanson – can we shorten it to Tranny Tony?

  • Chuck

    Resisting… urge… to go on… political… diatribe…

  • @Jedi…no objections here
    @Chuck…I’ll read it

  • Seymour Butts

    Tony the Tranny wins. Routinely. With crapola.
    Rather have him on our side than stay in StL.

  • Jeremiah Johnson

    Just saw a post from Bruce Levine–the Red Sox originally asked for Matt Garza in return for Epstein. Remarkably unreasonable, even for Boston.

    Here’s the story: http://espn.go.com/chicago/mlb/story/_/id/7116210/boston-red-sox-initially-wanted-matt-garza-chicago-cubs-theo-epstein

  • chris in illinois

    I don’t know why these protesters are upset at a group of people who manipulated our political and economic systems to their extreme financial gain bringing the whole world to the brink of financial ruin only to run to the government for help and then profit obscenely from that transaction as well?? Can’t these people just let their betters worry about the economy and go away??

  • Eddie Von White

    Where’s Barney Frank and Chris Dodd when you need them?

  • Jedi

    Proudly, I’ve never “needed” Barney Frank.

    http://logisticsmonster.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/barney-frank-chutzpah.jpg

  • Katie

    I cried when ESPN reported Dan Wheldon’s death. I’m not much of a racing fan, but he seemed like a personable guy. I’m glad nobody else died.

  • Doc Raker

    http://www.cato.org/pub_display.php?pub_id=12846
    For those of you interested in the statistical facts of the governments roll in the housing crisis.
    The link should take you to the Cato Institute Briefing paper entitled Fannie, Freddie and the Subprime Mortgage Market by Mark Calabria March 7, 2011. The GSE’s were the enabler and catalyst of the crisis.

  • chris in illinois

    Oh there is plenty of blame to go around Doc; Wall Street did their part by bundling those terrible mortgages into garbage financial ‘instruments’.

  • Buddy

    Yesterday I saw a group of protesters in Central IL. When I asked why they were protesting, they said “CBS is canceling WKRP in Cincinnati.” I was so angry that I grabbed a sign and joined their cause. How dare they cancel WKRP! The next think you know, they’ll try to cancel Dukes of Hazzard or Magnum, P.I. These corporate animals must be stopped!

  • Eddie Von White

    Right, Doc. Frank and Dodd get full credit for the housing crash. We had those same protesters march on Madison WI last winter.

  • I don’t know who decided that everybody should be able to own a house, but that idiotic notion is at the heart of the whole thing. Nothing to do with “Wall Street”…they played the game, as corporations do. Financial institutions trade debt, buy notes from others, and like corporations in general are driven by balance sheets. Mark from Toronto can tell you that Canada stayed above water due to one thing: requiring actual down payments…banking 101. Go occupy Washington, dipshits. Figure out what to be mad at, then go be mad…protesting 101.

  • Eddie Von White

    Swanson – exactly! The protesters don’t even know what they’re protesting.

  • Doc Raker

    Government Sponsored Enterprises (GSE) had everything to do with the housing crisis. It was democratic social engineering that pushed for loans to be made to people who could not repay them. Wall Street and the banks were playing the game as the law makers wanted them to. GWB supported the idea of the ‘ownership society’ but it was Barney Frank, his boyfriend who he appointed to CEO a GSE, Maxine Waters, Chris Dodd and the rest of the liberals wing that pushed for lower loan standards. Wall Street profited for a period of time until the market crashed and then Obama bailed them out. If Wall Street is so evil why bail them out? Athough not all Wall Street was bailed out, even that was political, Geitners buddy’s got bailed out but his adversaries did not. In short, government created the moral hazard for Wall Street to take on more risk than was prudent, without the GSE’s support that kind of risk would of never been taken on. The Cato report listed above spells it all out. Why don’t all Americans understand the root cause? Blaming Wall Street suits Obama and the media is in Obama’s pocket.

  • Doc Raker

    Chris- Who was Wall Street’s biggest customer when it came to those mortgage bundled investments you speak of?

  • chris in illinois

    Few short things:

    * The housing crisis was certainly a factor in the economic downturn, maybe even the main factor—smarter people than me disagree on that (for every Cato report from the right there is a report from Brookings coming to a different conclusion). Let’s just agree that no/low down payments for mortgages were/are a bad idea. Not everyone can afford a house.

    * Let’s also agree that fighting two wars on credit while cutting revenue (Bush tax cuts—from which I benefited greatly) and handing the Pharma corporations a giant subsidy (drug bill in the mid-00’s) maybe didn’t help either.

    * If we’re assigning degrees of blame, I couldn’t say if Freddie/Fannie were 9% or 90% or if the Wars were the same, I just don’t know and I’d wager than anyone who claims that they do is full of Quade.

    * Let’s also remember that Tarp #1 wasn’t an Obama creation but a GOP (Bush) invention…not that I blame either one for trying something, anything in the face of a crisis.

    * Couldn’t say who was the biggest consumer of the garbage Wall Street financial instruments, but I’d guess pension funds, mutual funds and foreign investors, but I could be wrong. I do know that Goldman bankers simultaneously sold these bundled ‘investments’ and bet money that they’d fail—but I’m sure they had honorable reasons for doing something that sounds vaguely criminal to this observer, after all, these sad, misunderstood multi-millionaires are truly the salt of the earth, the Dave Ecksteins of the working world.

  • Buddy

    News from the front…CBS has in fact canceled Dukes of Hazzard and Magnum P.I. How could our message have gone unheard?

  • Three cheers for we fiscally conservative Cubs fans…

  • Doc Raker

    Chris- You don’t know the answer because you didn’t read the report. The report isn’t opinion, it has facts in it. Brookings won’t tell you these facts because it doesn’t behove their agenda. Until you make an effort to understand the facts you are just blowing political rhetoric, something people of the left love to do since the facts rarely suit them. Keep in mind that just because GWB made the mistake of spending to much money doesn’t mean it is acceptable to fiscal conservatives for the government to over spend. GWB is the reason the Tea Party exists, because the GWB Republican era spent like drunken liberals. Then Obama triples that spending and people want to talk about tax increases that will have no real impact to the debt crisis. Decrease spending or we sink. Don’t hold your breath for Brookings to tell you that.
    Here is a stat for you. You can tax the wealthiest 1% of the country’s earners at 100% and not cover 3 months of Obama spending. All this fuss about Wall Street and raising taxes is all a distraction from the real problem and is an election campaign ploy. People who don’t understand the root problem will get distracted by the ploy. If you don’t listen to people who have answers because they come from the right you become a useful idiot for Obama.

  • Eddie Von White

    Doc – exactly.

  • Jedi

    Surprised at how little dissent Doc received – well done Doc…or perhaps most people just understand the truth after nearly 3 years.

  • Doc Raker

    My worry is to many people don’t understand. Thanks Eddie and Jedi!

  • Buddy

    Speaking of truth, I’ve learned some more bad news. CBS is now canceling Dallas. It’s time for drastic action!

  • chris in illinois

    I think the truth of the tea party movement lies somewhere in between the Koch brothers and the frequent early tea party sign: “Keep the Government’s hand off of my Medicare!!”.

  • chris in illinois

    I keep forgetting that it’s only the left that picks and chooses its facts…
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    this is also probably the most pointless discussion ever on this board…we are each giant fools to the other and have been brainwashed by one side or another…I’ve gotta stop doing this.

  • Buddy

    Seriously. Why would they cancel Magnum P.I.? It just doesn’t make any sense.

  • chris in illinois

    They finally, literally went through every Hawaiian shirt in existence…little known fact that the show would end once that happened.

  • $80/bbl oil has mustache grease prices through the roof.

  • Jedi

    Doc you might be right about people not understanding. Until we start teaching economics and accounting to kids at a younger age there will always be a large part of the population that is fiscally ignorant. It’s possible to graduate with a non-business bachelor degree while only having a single semester (or sometimes less!) of economic study in 17 years of schooling. It’s no wonder people don’t correctly see the folly of the Keynesian theory. If the next Congress doesn’t deliver a balanced budget amendment, we’ll never get one.

  • Buddy

    I had no idea about the Hawaiian shirts. Couldn’t they have just washed his old ones?

  • chris in illinois

    (can’t believe I’m doing this)…would a balanced budget amendment allow for emergency spending?? The sort necessary after 12/07/41??

  • Jedi

    I have zero doubt that if a balanced budget amendment had been enacted before Pearl Harbor, America would’ve found a way to free up the necessary funds in order to fight the Japanese & Germans.

    Personally, I don’t see how any individual can want a bunch of corrupt politicians the ability to impute debt to every American. Without a balanced budget amendment every American’s financial future is directly linked to the whims of Congress.

    It’s like Congress has both keys to our safe deposit box. We can keep changing the bank manager (Congress) all we want, but until we get our key back we can’t be sure that what’s in the box is safe. Right now Congress is dictating all the terms of withdrawal while simultaneously forcing us to continue making deposits – I’ll worry about how to coordinate a withdrawal in an emergency after I have that key back.

  • Buddy

    So what is CBS going to do with all those General Lee cars?

  • Doc Raker

    I am with you Jedi. Thomas Sowell wrote about the large percentage of college graduates in soft studies, i.e social studies, language studies, philosophy, etc. We are lacking students in the studies such as mathematics and engineering which is what a modern economy needs. We need to build things and create wealth and we need to understand the basic principles of the economy and our college students are not being taught these principles. The governments maximum revenue can only be 19% of GDP (according to accepted economic theory). The government has collected 18% of GDP in recent years, very close to the maximum. It has spent 24% of GDP in recent years and Obama wants to spend even more. How long can we spend more than we have and not have dire economic consequences upon us? Raising taxes is not the answer, we have to reduce spending down to the 18% GDP or below. I can’t believe Cheers was canceled, Cliff Clavin could straighten us out.

  • BLPCB

    Lets increase taxes on the super wealthy and corporations along with cutting off the freeloaders and welfare seekers. I saw how welfare works when I went to Memphis.
    We should also legalize weed, fireworks, and gambling, lower the drinking age to 18, and loosen gun control laws. 5 ways to increas revenue and save on law enforcement to go after white collar crime

  • Buddy

    I hope Uncle Jesse can find work.

  • Jedi

    Yeah, Doc – I mean forget about the politics of it all. Accounting/Economics is something that most people will use to some extent on a weekly basis during their entire adult life; and yet most people haven’t the slightest concept of how to keep their finances straight. It’s pathetic.

  • BLPCB

    I have an economics degree and I learned absolutely nothing. Now my dad is making me get the CPA, which I have no intentions of getting.

  • Doc Raker

    I really don’t think you learn much in undergrad which is a shame. BLPCB, are you doing post graduate work? I would recommend a post graduate degree, not in Spanish Literature though. Jedi- I agree with you completely.

  • BLPCB

    I guess. I’m at a JUCO. I want to study park district management in grad school, not this shit. I got an internship with the Disney College Program, so I have no need to get the CPA

  • BLPCB

    Undergrad is useless, you have to take a bunch of classes that have no impact on your life at all. What good does knowing isotopes of carbon do you to cause this economic disaster? And whenever you get a class where you might actually learn something, the teacher is an asshole and won’t let you do it.

  • Doc Raker

    http://www.freedompolitics.com/news/country-2822-wall-protestors.html

    Great piece.
    Yes, undergrad is frustrating but it is a hoop you have to jump through to get to post grad. Some of those folks learning about isotopes will one day be engineers of some sort, everyone needs to find their niche.

  • BLPCB

    What good does learning isotopes do those who don’t plan to become engineers?

  • Eddie Von White

    Jedi and Doc – yes, right on. If our politicians do not soon take a different path, we are in bigger trouble than we are now. And about education – whatever your field of study is, once you get your degree it is not an end in itself – it opens doors for you as you go. It is up to you to capitalize on those opportunities. BLPCB get the CPA – you will never be sorry you did. As long as you have a Park District Management degree you will always be working for someone else, thus limiting your ability to earn. My CPA owns houses in three states and farm land in two and spends about 6 months a year traveling between them all enjoying.

  • Katie

    @BLCPB – I thought the same thing. I had to take these dumb general education classes and I hated them. But once I got into the classes for my major, it was totally worth it. I LOVE school now. Honestly. JUCO is basically like high school… a bunch of teachers that don’t really want to teach, and a bunch of kids that don’t really want to learn. I promise, once you get out of that, your mindset will change. 🙂

  • Buddy

    Howard Hessman has been invited to the “Save WKRP” protests. No confirmation from his people yet. Stay strong brothers and sisters!

  • Doc Raker

    BLPCB- It is good to have a broad basis in education. I thought the same thing when I was in school but to have some knowledge about many subjects is helpful for the future. Everything is connected so having a basic understanding of a wide variety of subjects will be helpful. Maybe you will be a CPA at an engineering firm, maybe it will just be good to know so you have respect for the engineers working in that field. When I went to optometry school we had to take anatomy and everyone was like, “Why do we have to know how many bones are in the foot?” Well, there are systemic inflammatory diseases that effect the ankles and feet which put a patient at higher risk for disease of the eye, they are connected. So to be a good eye doctor I need to be able to recognize disease in other parts of the body, something I didn’t know at the time but am happy I know it now.
    * Eddie and Katie are both right, you never stop learning and the farther you go the more specific the learning. Keep it up the school work and consider an MBA if business is your subject.

  • Eddie Von White

    Thanks Doc. I couldn’t agree more about the broad basis in education. For the most part I like what I am reading on this VFTB blog. We all have one thing in common and that is Cubs baseball, but we also have this thing called life going on. I like the variety of insights from the variety of ages and backgrounds represented, proving the Cubs are good for us all.

  • Doc Raker

    Right on Eddie, they are many life lessons in baseball so why not at the VFTB also.

  • BLPCB

    I don’t ever intend on getting the CPA. It’s not what I want to do with my life. It’s what my dad wants me to do. This is my life, not his. He’ll be dead in 10-15 years. He just can’t stand seeing me do what I want. He’s been this way with me my whole life. If it’s not done his way, he doesn’t want to be involved and will do whatever he can to stop it.

  • BLPCB

    There is going to be a time when I knock my parents out of my life forever and never talk to them again. And when it happens, I am going to send them a letter with all the things in life I’ve done to make their actions fail. Lots of things my dad has made me do which I never did or once he gave up I undid, proving them they were an obstacle in my life.

  • BLPCB

    Eddie – I don’t want 3 houses. I’ll be perfectly fine with 1 house, working for a park district. All the people who work there love what they do

  • Doc Raker

    BLPCB- I believe in free will, just make sure you are doing what you want, not what will spite your parents. If a career in park and rec is what you want then get the highest degree possible for it. I don’t know what the pay scale for park and rec is but I wouldn’t count on to big a house, it is probably a sector of the public jobs market that will have budget cuts for years to come.

  • Eddie Von White

    BLPCB – we need parks and rec people too. But if I may…the bad thing about bitterness is it will eat you up. Enjoy your life and let the chips fall where they may.

  • BLPCB

    Doc and Eddie – I plan on studying that in grad school, probably for a masters. I don’t have to limit myself to just park districts, there are plenty of good gigs in the private sector. I looked at Ohio State’s program, it’s parks, recreation, and tourism, so there are certainly lots of opportunities there. If I did work for a park district, I would probably try to work in the Winnetka of some city, that’s where the money is. I don’t need a big house. I plan to be single my entire life.
    I’m not bitter at all. I’m perfectly happy. It’s just that my parents are the biggest obstacle in my life, and once they are out of the way, I won’t have anyone in my path. I’m going to knock them out of my life and never talk to them again. It is not what I want to do that makes them opposed to it, it’s the fact that it’s not what they want me to do. This could go on the exact opposite way and these fights would still happen.
    We’ve seen plenty of doctors and none of it works. Because my dad refuses to listen. In 2005, we had a fight because I smashed a plate over being blamed for something I didn’t do, with my dad saying I “earned” the right to be blamed for poor grades. He wouldn’t let me watch sports and took away my newspaper everyday. We fought for a month over this in front of a psychologist who told him he was being unreasonable, to give it back, and apologize. Nope. I threatened him several times, saying no one gets hurt if I get it back. Nope. He was going to give it back, but he wouldn’t let me swim senior year. I told him if he doesn’t give it back, and he doesn’t let me swim, I’m running away. He only gave it back at this point, and I told him if he was just saying this to shut me up, he was mistaken. Going back on it, I should have pummeled him.
    They have never been happy with me. My dad refuses to be involved if he isn’t in charge. He can’t accept the fact that he is not in charge, and he has to make everything much more complicated than it has to be. Even this Disney internship, I can tell they are against it because I did it and they didn’t, and they’re only letting me do it because they know I will create a lot of trouble if they didn’t allow it.
    My dad demanded I apply to banks to work there, going so far as to writing a cover letter and making me sign it and giving him my resume, which he then ordered to be done his way. I just did it to shut him up, lied to him that I gave the letter, and that I followed up, and didn’t get an interview bc they filled it. Truth is, I left it in my car and shredded it the next day when he wasn’t home. I have a note with all his BS that I have made fail, which I plan to send to them when they are gone from my life forever.

  • Doc Raker

    Sorry to hear you have such a difficult relationship with your parents. Keep in mind even though their methods might be incorrect they probably just want the best for you. Don’t spite them, just be the best you can be. When you reach forgiveness you will be free.

  • Eddie Von White

    BLPCB – You seem motivated. You should go into whatever vocation you want. The thing about growing up is after you are on your own you are free to make your own decisions. In time, your parents will come to accept that and hopefully respect you in the decisions you make. If not, do what you can to maintain a reasonable relationship with them so you will have no regrets. The way you feel now may change eventually.

  • BLPCB

    Doc – if they really wanted the best for me, why would they constantly try to take away the things that made me happy? I got good grades and they were still unhappy with me being on the swim team, saying I was focusing too much time and energy on it. My dad forced me to be in special education for so many years because I might have had some problems reading, but then he finally came to his senses and signed me out, only to get angry when he found out that the study period I would be given in place of it would be at the start of the day. He got mad and threatened not to sign me out not only for the rest of that year, but also the next year. I had to get a teacher to lie to him to get him to sign me out.

    It’s never been about this. It’s been about my dad trying to make me do what he wants, with no regards for what I want. He doesn’t listen to anyone. He’s right, everyone else is wrong. In 8th grade, he didn’t like the class levels I was recommended for for math and science, and overrode the recommendations without my consent and against the advice of several people who said take the lower level freshman year and then the higher level sophomore year. Nope. I struggled in the higher classes and he refused to let me go down to the lower levels. He would hit me and yell at me every day when I had trouble with the problems. I had to purposely fail before he let me drop down, I would deliberately get problems wrong on the tests.

    Why would they constantly complain and look for reasons to punish me even when I got good grades? Why would my mom try to degrade me after my swim meets freshman year and break me down so much to the point where I was going to quit, until my teammates voted me the hardest worker? They do not deserve forgiveness. They have been given many chances, and they don’t change. Their sorry has no meaning any more.

  • BLPCB

    Eddie – They will never be happy with what I do in my life if I do what I want and not what they want. This could go the exact opposite way, them wanting me to do park management and me wanting to do accounting, and these fights would still happen. I would have no regrets knocking them out of my life forever, because they don’t get it and never will. I’ve already decided if I ever get married and have kids that I’m going to tell my wife and kids my parents are dead.

  • Doc Raker

    So sorry things have been difficult for you BLPCB. I hope you find a way to forgive so you can move past your anger. Consider talking to a Pastor, the Bible may have some wisdom for you.